Arrange Vs Love Marriage

Marriage is one of the important transitional phases in the life of a man and women. But the whole set up of marriage has distinct classification Love and arrange marriage. For an evolving society like India, Love marriages are still a taboo. So if you have love marriage it is looked from pessimistic perception from a certain section of the society. But my objective of writing this piece e is not to put forward what the society thinks, but rather analyze what are the chances of success for an arrange marriage and love marriage. I am a bachelor, so the view is based on my observing post married life of a couple from both the camps. I won’t bore you much with my Guru Gyan , but the bottom line Love marriage is an informed choice where we know the partner for some time so the failure or success depends solely on the individual and their ability to gel with rest of family members from both sides. Whereas in an arrange marriage it’s the coming together of two families, so the relationship is cemented on a wider platform called family. But there is a catch in arrange marriage since we don dot know our partner, it will be a case of trying and adjust to choice which is not our own. At the end of the day, it is the couple who decide whether they want to have a successful marriage life. God bless all newly wed couples.

Experience: Which has no match?
As a student and as young professional, one thing that I have always treasured is the golden word of wisdom from elders, which we can call as “Experience”. When they share their experience it has two connotations, things we should do and things we shouldn’t do to be “successful in life”.

But what I have observed and from personal observations, I can say that people most of the time remember The don’ts suggested by our seniors .We remember things that should be avoided in life, so that life is smooth sailing.

However, the bottom line is we should always appreciate and share our and others experiences. It is a great way to learn and re-learn things.

Bye for now.
See you next week.

Change

Change this is the only thing in our life which keeps on adding a new variation to our life. Everybody have a different approach to life, and for that reason to change . Some want “change” to be constant part of there life’s . People like me ,who get bored with everything ,that not evolving or not throwing up challenges. There are people who love to hate change, because change brings certain disequilibrium in your life. If you had a bad experience with change, then you are likely to resist changes in future provided your mindset is that of “change is evil”.

Anyways the bottom line is we cannot avoid change.W e should accept change as an opportunity to explore and if the experience of the change does not show good, let's take it in our stride. Just like on some days when your mom add a little bit more salt in your curry and you still love it.

To Maa &Baba…………With Love.

I would like to wish you all a “Happy Independence Day”. India turned 60 today, which is also the most likely age of people retiring from active public life. But as a nation we are just leaping into the new phase youthful exuberance, which is going to accelerate us into the next big league of developed nations .There are three factor pushing this growth the 300 Million strong India middle class, our educated workforce and the youth population of our country which some suggest 50% falls in age bracket 17-35 years.

Fortunately, I belong to the social strata that satisfy all the three above criteria. But this blog is not about me .It is about the people who brought me to this world, made what I am, that’s my parents. This blog is dedicated to all those parents who put there blood and sweat so that there child can have education and be a sensible individual. But the irony is as we move up the value chain; we are slowly getting disconnected from our parents. The demand of job made us to leave home in search of opportunities and once we have settled in the corporate world it becomes difficult to go back to your native place to visit your parents.

But the problem is people’s apathy towards their parents. I heard somebody saying that parents are a burden and should be sent to old-age home. This is completely an in-human approach; we all know how people are treated in these homes and moreover people who nourished us for 20 years and made us what we are today, can’t we make there last stage more comfortable.

I am very proud that my parents are staying with me know and I believe I am lucky to have them around me, it’s such a joyous moment .My only request is if your parents are not keeping well or are lonely ,please keep them near you.

We should never forget that one day we will also grow old, treat your parents as you expect your children to treat you.

“Let’s liberate our parents from the pains of old age”.

The Art of Bargaining

From a very young age we tend to develop the habit of shopping, boys may be vegetable and groceries and Girls buying bangles or cosmetics ,the commonalty is not only shopping but the process of bargaining we do with seller. Over our growing period, this habit of bargaining gets imbibed into us a natural skill. That’s the reason also in the retails chains today 85% of SKU’S (Stock keeping units) are subject to discount, because love buy for less, which is not bad.

When we move into our professional life’s this skill help us a lot, while making negotiation for better package or while sourcing resources for our projects or convincing clients that our proposal is the best. Indians are doing well whether it’s marketing or finance domain, because this skill has refined from our formative years.

Some people may suggest that this mentality of barging is a “Middle-Class syndrome” my only suggestion to such hypocrites is that if you don’t have the skills don’t crib.

So I encourage all parents across the socio-economic strata to encourage there kids to go and do shopping at least for the necessities like groceries, vegetable , etc and one line instruction get it at the lowest price without compromising the quality .

The Prez: Our Economic Envoy.

India is truly a democratic country when it comes to sharing the power-pie. The latest round of political dangal for the 12Th President of India has now reached its crescendo. Any politician who is above the age of 60 is being projected as the next president.

I am writing this article not to take pot shots at our political Kichidi. I have a very precise objective.To put it in simple words move the “Rubber stamp” status of the President to the Position of International Negotiator of Socio-Economic Agenda.

He will be having two precise responsibilities. First, he should continue to host social –political dignitaries and improve India’s PR among the International community.
Second, let our president become the spearhead of attracting Foreign Investment in India. It will be five-member Economic Expediency Group (EEG). Led by The Prez, with one representative from Ministry of Finance, External Affairs, Law Ministry and the new Ministry of Corporate affirm. Covert the President Body Guard into PREZ: Board of Investment Hunters. Their primary focus should be to prepare a single document that suggests “How to Invest in India”.  It should be our agenda that we attract industry which attracts a lot of sister industries e,g automobile will attract a lot of ancillary units. The bottom line should be the timeframe of implementing this project. We should also put into place performance criteria for the Prez. It can be very simple, after each tenure, an achievement schedule should be made which will summarize how projects were won during his tenure and what was the inflow of fund and how much wealth (economic and human) was generated by this inflow in India.

Therefore our president should be somebody who is having experience in “Modern day Business Paradigm”. If he is a greenhorn in business, he should be ready to re-learn the new game of ‘The Prez: For the business”. It is no point having people at this high position, who are good at political pipe dreams and are at the fag end of there personal and political career. If we look at President Dr Abdul Kalam, a tenure where he has made all the right moves. Now its time that we formalize this high sounding position works for our economic benefit.
If Sonia Gandhi wants to make a statement to the world by forwarding a woman to be the next president, I welcome her gesture, but let the President be ready to attend a fast-track 1-month Business Acumen Class at the IBS, Hyderabad.


I know that it’s a dream what I am trying to propose. But dreams are meant to inspire us.